Waiting for my data

Still waiting for my data to come in... They promised me in the morning.. Now they say afternoon... Since we are still early ... Its okie... But my friend the other day told me very fast one.. They just within minutes can do for her... I wonder izzit becos I am a hateful person ...

Yesterday... I really screamed over the phone at my accounts ppl... Okie...Let me let off some steam for a while.. I dun understand why in the end it appeared that I was the difficult person.

3 months ago.. we engaged a printer to print some stuff for us. They sent us their invoice, I signed it and pass it to accounts. I thought my job was done. 2 months later.. the printer came back saying they've not received the invoice. I was like.. hmm.. I thought I handed it to accounts. I remembered clearly signing it... Guess my fault was I did not make a photocopy or pass to the person in person.. I just left it on the desk i think... Called my accounts department... and this girl say.. They did not receive it. COLDLY. Okie.. she's a new girl.. Just overtook the previous girl's job. Fine.. I asked the printer to sent me a "certified true copy". They sent. I signed. This time I went to photocopy. Then called the girl to make sure she is at her desk. If not after i put on her desk, then she say she never receive it again. She say okie.. she will process the cheques only beginning of the month. I told the printer and they say okie.. Okie.. I thought that episode was over.

1 month later.. the printer emailed me again.. saying they still never receive payment. I was like.. huh... how come.. Called the accounts girl again.. she say.. she processed just that her boss never signed yet. He got more urgent things to do.. Like processing staff payment. I was like... "Hey... that's urgent as well.. We have delayed payment for 3 months!!" She tells me... "if we dun pay you you also will complain.. so processing staff payment more important"... My goodness... processing staff payment isn't it basic??? Then she tell me I not happy go talk to her boss... I was super angry already... Then just nice.. her boss at her desk .. so she talked to her boss while I held on the phone.. I was ready to talk to her boss... Then ... She say.. okie.. her boss signed the cheque... Signing a cheque will take you how long?? A few seconds only mah.. I also dun understand.. Then I asked her.. "you confirm can send the cheque today?" She tell me.. "Yes.. but i've also got other important things to do.. I need to get another boss to sign the cheque so we can only get it done at the end of the day"...Fine.. Think I kept bugging her to give me the assurance that she will sent the cheque out that very day.. so she got fustrated... You know.. We are lucky they are not demanding compensation for delayed payment.. You wana take that responsiblity?? No lor.. in the end.. you will just tell me you never recieve the invoice... so in the end it is still my fault... after that.. I think she hung up her phone.. so no matter how I called... her phone is engaged... Hahah.. cos i wanted to check if she sent out the cheque at the end of the day... Oh yah.. and during our conversation.. she kept saying.. "If they are so hard up for payment.. why they dun come down to collect the cheque themselves"... HEY.... its not they are hard up for payment... its we are delaying payment.... 3 months is a long time.. I am sure if a client delays payment for 3 months to us.. YOUR department will be chasing them also mah... You can't because we are the client now then you delay payment right??

okie.. then this morning.. i went to check if they've sent out the cheque.. they did... thankfully...

I went back to check my whole desk.. cleared everything up to check if it was me that left the invoice at my desk.. no... it was not.. I cleared my whole desk and found no invoices... So ... I really dun understand.. okie.. I give you the benfit of doubt that you did not receive the previous invoice.. .But should'nt you put it as urgent and just get the stupid cheque signed?? What's the difficulty?? Yes... I dun understand how you all process payment and stuff lah... But paying ppl on time is a basic courtesy... and if your boss dun sign it.. can't you tell him its urgent???

I really felt like scolding bad words at the moment ... and her attitude was so bad... okie... guess after this episode.. besides FW.. my name is bad in accounts as well... and what did I do wrong?? Demanding payment is wrong? Was I difficult? I really dun understand...

Ah... finally let off all my steam... so the angry lor.. esp yesterday... okie.. forget it... No use getting over this little stuff right?

I do care how ppl look at me... i do hope ppl see me as a good person.. but if I am not a good person.. just tell me where I am not good.. so I can change... I dun think I am that bad though.. hehehe.. maybe i am wrong... but... you know.. i still have ppl who appreciate me for who I am.. if this place ppl hates me.. then let it be bah... if ppl here see me as stupid .. then let it be bah.... I know my purpose here... and I've done my best... if my best is not enough.. if you dun give me any more chances.. then that's your choice.. I know my own strengths in working... So.. okie... I know i have my weaknesses as well.. and i do wana try to improve on that... I used to say I wana stay 5 years here... i guess maybe not anymore... unless really no one else wana me lah.. hahahha... then no choice... I am grateful that I was given this opportunity.. and I know I am being difficult now that I have this opportunity I am complaining again.. Sorrie PAPA... HEE... I do appreciate this job.. I do enjoy my friendships here... I am glad its no more me and me alone... Anyways.... I do hope that I did not make a bad name out of my PAPA here...

OKie.. me better get back to appearing busy... if not.. they might just as well ask me to leave liao.. hehehhe...

Choices

Choices... They are defined as "the power, right or liberty to chose; option"..... They are a gift to mankind but sometimes I just wished that we did not have choices at all... I've made bad choices in life and totally regretted them... It also pains me at the choices of some of my frens and in the end, they end up hurting themselves cos of it... and there is nothing I can do to help ...

The other day... a good friend sms me... My heart sank when I saw the SMS... If you are that good friend reading this... It did saddens me when I saw it.... I guess I never will understand what you are going through... No matter ... remember that you have friends who loves you..

The other day... my friend introduced me this book... Called the Five Love Languages... I briefly read through a series of that book the other day... And thought that what the author said was very true... Below are the 5 love languages he mentioned in his book. Maybe you all can think through and see which is your love language... It might just help you in your relationship with your other half or any other people. Though it did seems more like for a boy-girl relationship kind of thingy lah.. I will try to find the book for singles.. so can see how we all can apply it to our relationships with friends, colleagues and family members... Will then update you all then. However, if you all are keen to find out more.. can visit the author's website here... The Five Love Languages website. Below is a summary I got from the website. So think I will paste it here for those who are lazy to go to the website.

30 second assesment

Here is a 30 second assessment. For those who would wana a more thorough one, you can go purchase his book... Guess since most of the people reading this blog will most probably be singles, then you can look for the book The Five Love Languages for Singles by Gary Chapman.

Please choose the following statement that is most true of you

1) I feel especially loved when people express how grateful they are for me, and for the simple, everyday things I do.

2) I feel especially loved when a person gives me undivided attention and spends time alone with me

3) I feel especially loved by someone who brings me gifts and other tangible expressions of love

4) I feel especially loved when someone pitches in to help me, prehaps by running errands or taking on my household chores

5) I feel especially loved when a person expresses feelings for me through physical contact.

Your Primary Love Language is: (highlight over to see)
1) Words of Affirmation - You feel loved when another person tells you that he or she values you as a person and appreciates your special way with the most ordinary tasks

2) Quality Time - You feel closest to another person when you received focused attention

3) Receiving Gifts - Tangible expressions of love assure you that the other person is not only thinking of you, but that he or she cares enough to show it

4) Acts of Service - You feel most loved when someone helps you carry out your responsiblities

5) Physical Touch - You feel most loved when you literally make contact with another person. You enjoy being embraced and feeling another's touch.

Here is a detailed description of the Five Love Langauges (in no order of merit). See if it really applies to you. Maybe can see which one applies to your family or friends and try to love our family and friends in that way. Those who have did the above can leave me a comment as to what is your Primary Love Language so I can understand you all better and love you all in the way they you like people to love you.

1) Words of Affirmation

Mark Twain once said "I can live for two months on a good compliment.”Verbal appreciation speaks powerfully to persons whose primary Love Language is "Words of Affirmation." Simple statements, such as, "You look great in that suit," or "You must be the best baker in the world! I love your oatmeal cookies," are sometimes all a person needs to hear to feel loved.

Aside from verbal compliments, another way to communicate through "Words of Affirmation" is to offer encouragement. Here are some examples: reinforcing a difficult decision; calling attention to progress made on a current project; acknowledging a person's unique perspective on an important topic. If a loved one listens for "Words of Affirmation," offering encouragement will help him or her to overcome insecurities and develop greater confidence.

2) Quality Time

Quality time is more than mere proximity. It's about focusing all your energy on your mate. A husband watching sports while talking to his wife is NOT quality time. Unless all of your attention is focused on your mate, even an intimate dinner for two can come and go without a minute of quality time being shared.

Quality conversation is very important in a healthy relationship. It involves sharing experiences, thoughts, feelings and desires in a friendly, uninterrupted context. A good mate will not only listen, but offer advice and respond to assure their mate they are truly listening. Many mates don't expect you to solve their problems. They need a sympathetic listener.

An important aspect of quality conversation is self-revelation. In order for you to communicate with your mate, you must also be in tune with your inner emotions. It is only when you understand your emotions and inner feelings will you then be able to share quality conversation, and quality time with your mate.

Quality activities are a very important part of quality time. Many mates feel most loved when they spend physical time together, doing activities that they love to do. Spending time together will bring a couple closer, and, in the years to come, will fill up a memory bank that you can reminisce about in the future. Whether it's sitting on the couch and having a brief conversation or playing together in a tennis league, quality time is a love language that is shared by many. Setting aside focused time with your mate will ensure a happy marriage.

3) Receiving Gifts

Some mates respond well to visual symbols of love. If you speak this love language, you are more likely to treasure any gift as an expression of love and devotion. People who speak this love language often feel that a lack of gifts represents a lack of love from their mate. Luckily, this love language is one of the easiest to learn.

If you want to become an effective gift giver, many mates will have to learn to change their attitude about money. If you are naturally a spender, you will have no trouble buying gifts for your mate. However, a person who is used to investing and saving their money may have a tough time adjusting to the concept of spending money as an expression of love. These people must understand that you are investing the money not in gifts, but in deepening your relationship with your mate.

The gift of self is an important symbol of love. Sometimes all your mate desires is for someone to be there for them, going through the same trials and experiencing the same things. Your body can become a very powerful physical symbol of love.

These gifts need not to come every day, or even every week. They don't even need to cost a lot of money. Free, frequent, expensive, or rare, if your mate relates to the language of receiving gifts, any visible sign of your love will leave them feeling happy and secure in your relationship.

4) Acts of Service

Sometimes simple chores around the house can be an undeniable expression of love. Even simple things like laundry and taking out the trash require some form of planning, time, effort, and energy. Just as Jesus demonstrated when he washed the feet of his disciples, doing humble chores can be a very powerful expression of love and devotion to your mate.

Very often, both pairs in a couple will speak to the Acts of Service Language. However, it is very important to understand what acts of service your mate most appreciates. Even though couples are helping each other around the house, couples will still fight because the are unknowingly communicating with each other in two different dialects. For example, a wife may spend her day washing the cars and walking to dog, but if her husband feels that laundry and dishes are a superior necessity, he may feel unloved, despite the fact that his wife did many other chores throughout the day. It is important to learn your mate's dialect and work hard to understand what acts of service will show your love.

It is important to do these acts of service out of love and not obligation. A mate who does chores and helps out around the house out of guilt or fear will inevitably not be speaking a language of love, but a language of resentment. It's important to perform these acts out of the kindness of your heart.

Demonstrating the acts of service can mean stepping out of the stereotypes. Acts of service require both mates to humble themselves into doing some chores and services that aren't usually expected from their gender. However, these little sacrifices will mean the world to your mate, and will ensure a happy relationship.

5) Physical Touch

Many mates feel the most loved when they receive physical contact from their partner. For a mate who speaks this love language loudly, physical touch can make or break the relationship.

Sexual intercourse makes many mates feel secure and loved in a marriage. However, it is only one dialect of physical touch. Many parts of the body are extremely sensitive to stimulation. It is important to discover how your partner not only physically responds but also psychologically responds to these touches.

It is important to learn how your mate speaks the physical touch language. Some touches are irritating and uncomfortable for your mate. Take the time to learn the touches your mate likes. They can be big acts, such as back massages or lovemaking, or little acts such as touches on the cheek or a hand on the shoulder. It's important to learn how your mate responds to touch. That is how you will make the most of this love language.

All marriages will experience crisis. In these cases, physical touch is very important. In a crisis situation, a hug can communicate an immense amount of love for that person. A person whose primary love language is physical touch would much rather have you hold them and be silent than offer any advice.

It is important to remember that this love language is different for everyone. What type of touch makes you feel secure is not necessarily what will make your partner happy. It is important to learn each other's dialects. That way you can make the most of your hugging, kissing, and other physical contacts.

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Okies... Guess that's all for now... See when I can update here again.

Take care my friends. And have a good week ahead!

牛仔很忙

Hahahah... The moment I heard Mr Jay's new song... I could not stop myself from bursting out in laughter.. the first thought that came to my mind was.... SO CHILDISH... But.. after hearing in on the radio over and over again.. think almost every day can hear it 2-3 times.. I am beginning to quite like this song.. HAHAHHA... Can imagine myself dancing to the tune in his concert liao... YEEE HAR....

Actually.. the lyrics for this song is really super funny...

呜啦啦啦火车笛 随着奔腾的马蹄

小妹妹吹着口琴 夕阳下美了剪影

我用子弹写日记 介绍完了风景

接下来换 介绍我自己

我虽然是个牛仔 在酒吧只点牛奶

为什么不喝啤酒 因为啤酒伤身体

很多人不长眼睛 嚣张都靠武器

赤手空拳 就缩成蚂蚁

不用麻烦了 不用麻烦了 不用麻烦 不用麻烦了 不用麻烦了

你们一起上 我在赶时间 每天决斗 观众都累了 英雄也累了

不用麻烦了 不用麻烦了 副歌不长 你们有几个 一起上好了

正义呼唤我 美女需要我 牛仔很忙的

(some hokkien lyrics)

我啦啦啦骑毛驴 因为马跨不上去

洗澡都洗泡泡浴 因为可以玩玩具

我有颗善良的心 都只穿假牛皮

喔跌倒时 尽量不压草皮

枪口它没长眼睛 我曾经答应上帝

除非是万不得已 我尽量射橡皮筋

老板先来杯奶昔 要逃命前请你

顺便喂喂 我那只小毛驴

不用麻烦了 不用麻烦了 不用麻烦 不用麻烦了 不用麻烦了

你们一起上 我在赶时间 每天决斗 观众都累了 英雄也累了

不用麻烦了 不用麻烦了 副歌不长 你们有几个 一起上好了

正义呼唤我 美女需要我 牛仔很忙的

You cannot 不佩服 Mr 周杰伦 lah... I won't be surprise... Later... a lot of ppl's 专辑 will start having this country style music... Since I do think a lot of ppl followed his 中国风... cos after he started it.. then everyone started to have that kind of music.. If not it was all very westernised...

Oh well... Mr 周杰伦... Pls remember Singapore sometimes lah...You dun come here at all except for concerts.. Though we are a small country.. but you really do have a lot of fans here.. and ppl like me.. who started to buy those parallel imports.. will really buy your Singapore version of the album.. though its double the price neh.. and though the posters they give me .. I always end up chucking them in my cupboard.. KEKE... Maybe you all can give a bottle of milk this time... HEEE....

Been some time since I blog yah.. wanted to blog some time ago.. but my stupid computer keep giving me problems... Oh well... Thank God now its all up and running again...

One thing... I am going to Hong Kong!!! Heheh... think its been a while since I really went on a holiday holiday.. last time go out of the country if not cos of church camp... think it was cos of church stuff also... Now... its cos of shopping and sightseeing.... YEAH... so excited.... I'm just so afraid I will have the after-holiday syndrome ... kekek...

Now... my list of things to look forward to

1) Hong Kong trip

2) Ah Mei Concert

3) Grace's (not me though I wished I was getting married) wedding

4) Christmas

5) New Year

6) Jay Chou's concert

Woooo... Its lined up till next year liao.. HEHEH....

Been a bit sianz at work.. Think cos nothing to do... I hate having nothing to do... But guess also I feel that boss dun like me lah... Duno am I thinking too much.. .HEE... Oh well... see how things go... but in any case.. my plan to stay 5 years may no longer be so... But where else can I go leh? I duno.... Maybe save as much money as possible now... and see if I can open my shop then... BUT... guess I am only day dreaming... If only money can drop from the sky... kekek..

See.... one year so fast pass neh... I dun think I wrote my resolutions for 2007 yet... and now.. 2008 is here... Can't believe I am growing so old liao.... Still remember my "plans" to be attached by 24, married by 26 and have my first child by 28. Hmmm... Now I am 27... And my first step is not there yet... Fellow singles... Let's 加油!! We can all find our that one bah... Hopefully.. HEHE...

By the way.. lately... I felt I am growing older and older by the day... so I decided to start using skin care products. Hopefully the money I invested in will be worth it...

OK... today will be this short entry loh... Tomolo is finally Friday!!! Yeah....

牛仔们。。。加油！！